March 9th, 2005 · 19 Comments · Uncategorized

Today is the 20th anniversary of my father’s death. I was a sophomore in high school. I do not tell you this to make you uncomfortable, dear readers, or to make you wonder what you should say. There is no need to comment; I know you are here, I know you are reading. This is life. And part of life is death. And I’m okay. Really. But it’s something I needed to say. I’ll tell you what… instead of commenting, I want you to pick up the phone, call your dad, and tell him that you love him. Because he may not be there tomorrow.

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  • 1 Agnes // Mar 10, 2005 at 2:56 am

    *HUG* *HUG* *HUG*

  • 2 Alyce // Mar 10, 2005 at 8:57 am

    *hug* This is so true…I have no contact with my father (mutual agreement), and I lost my mother in January. It’s so easy to take them for granted–and so hard to forget they aren’t there anymore.

  • 3 Kari Holtz // Mar 10, 2005 at 12:41 pm


  • 4 Tiffany // Mar 10, 2005 at 4:10 am

    *hugs* My Dad has been gone almost 11 years. I am still overcome sometimes when I have something I want to share with him.

    Note: I know you’ve heard me talk of my dad that is still here. My bio dad chose to remain secondary during my childhood, but we are close now and I do cherish him.

  • 5 neena // Mar 10, 2005 at 7:29 am

    i also lost my dad when i was quite young (13) and it is still difficult on the anniversary of his death. i try to remember the good times and watch old family movies on those days, and sometimes it makes me feel better, and sometimes it lets me have a much needed cry. i will say a prayer for you and yours today…

  • 6 Joann // Mar 10, 2005 at 4:19 am

    I called my dad, and thanked him for being a great dad, and grandfather. You are in my thoughts today.

  • 7 Julie // Mar 10, 2005 at 4:32 pm

    I didn’t realize yesterday you had posted, or I’d have been here sooner. Lots of hugs sent your way my friend, I only wish I was there to give you one (or forty) in person.

  • 8 Princsstrish // Mar 10, 2005 at 4:21 am

    I emailed my mom and thanked her being a great dad :) I want nothing to do with my bio dad or step dad… my choice. I’m lucky to have her, and you are right, you just never know.

  • 9 Sue // Mar 10, 2005 at 3:22 pm

    I hear ya, hon. It will be 21 years in October. Funny how that day, mom and my brother are always on my mind, and we all always end up calling, without realizing what day it is.

  • 10 lynette // Mar 10, 2005 at 3:48 am

    i meant to say that i’m hear, and i understand. *thanks* for sharing.

  • 11 Michelle // Mar 15, 2005 at 2:49 pm

    I’m late to comment here, but I will be thinkin’ of you! I promise to call my dad to night, and tell him (and my mom) that I love ‘em.


  • 12 Eva // Mar 10, 2005 at 3:31 am

    It’s been 4 years since my dad passed away. I still forget sometimes and remind myself to call him and tell him x , y, or z. And then I catch myself and I tell him in my head. I think he still hears me.

  • 13 Dana // Apr 8, 2005 at 9:33 am

    It’s been long enough that I haven’t calculated the years. 17. I thought I was young, but I was 38… It definitely seemed too soon. Especially since Mom had died 4 years before AND my husband wanted a divorce. But all’s well now. Hope you have a glorious Spring, full of new wonders.

  • 14 Jane // Mar 12, 2005 at 1:00 am

    It’s only been 21 months since I lost my Dad and I was lucky to have him for so many years (he was 85) but I miss him so much. He and Mom had just moved to a house a couple blocks from us and we had so many plans. He was going to teach me to play the drums and billards. Then suddenly he was gone without any warning. I’m cherishing every day that I have with Mom because you never know what the next day will bring. Hugs..

  • 15 Deb // Mar 11, 2005 at 1:58 am

    Lots of hugs to you. I lost my dad 9 yrs. this coming July, I was 35. Even tho I moved back home it took a long time to remember he wasn’t there to call. Momma will be gone 2 yrs this May. Time is a great healer, but many days I miss them both so much I could cry. My thoughts are with you….more *hugs*

  • 16 Vera // Mar 10, 2005 at 10:25 am

    My mother passed away seven years ago, and I often want to tell her what going on or make her things. She didn’t crochet or knit, but was proud of the things I made, even as a child.

  • 17 jess // Mar 10, 2005 at 1:40 am

    since I can’t (it was just over 2 years ago) I’ll comment just to offer a virtual *hug* — even though it’s part of life and even though it’s okay, I still miss my dad every day. I can’t imagine it’s much different for anyone else.

    Hope you had an okay day!


  • 18 lynette // Mar 10, 2005 at 3:47 am

    thanks for sharing.

  • 19 Marvie // Mar 10, 2005 at 5:47 am


    I lost my dad when I was in 8th grade, miss him every day of my life, but as you said, death is part of life, so I’ve long ago accepted that he isn’t here physically to share things with. I do still share things with him (and my Mama who was killed 3 years earlier) I speak to them in my head often and yes, I even go runnin’ to them when life gets to be crazy and I feel at a loss =) I can feel their love and support when I need it most.


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